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If there’s one complaint that you’re sure to hear today from someone, it’s that there’s simply not enough time. We all feel that way, and yet we’re quite happy spending a few hours a day streaming films or scrolling through Facebook.
It’s a sure sign that we need a better approach to time management. The first thing you have to do is realize that time is a commodity. What’s more, it’s a precious one.
Most people amble through life as though time were unlimited. That’s why people often procrastinate, too. And you’d be amazed just how much time you waste on life admin, hobbies, vacations, or just staring into the air.
To combat this trend, you need time management. Each one of us needs to appreciate the time that we have and ensure that we plan tasks accordingly.
A good start is to work out which activities are important to you and incorporate them into your daily routine. Meditation, skills acquisition, care of the home or project work can all find a spot in the schedule. You just need to make sure you keep to your schedule and don’t let your plans drag on.
Time management is one way to stay happy. But if you complement this approach with emotion management, you’ll find yourself happier still.
Think about it: if you unleash negative emotions on the world, you’ll not only waste a load of time, but it’ll also lead to all sorts of negative consequences.
All those friendships you’ve spent years nurturing? Poof! Too many tantrums, and you may lose them.
But negative emotions also affect time management. If you have too much negativity swirling around inside of you, then this will manifest as plenty of procrastination. Just think of any occasion when you’ve rehashed an old argument to yourself long after it’s over. Your partner or colleagues couldn’t care less! They’ve long forgotten it, but you’re still wasting time mulling it over.
Let’s join the dots together. If you control your emotional reactions, you’ll have more time for what’s important, and so end up happier in the long run.
So when someone gets your goat, count to a hundred before you even try to reply. The delay will ensure your response is calm and considered.
And if your emotions are burning red-hot, then really take some time out. You need at least 30 minutes to calm down; maybe a little meditation will help, too.
Connecting with nature and making use of your commute will ensure happiness and success.
If you live in a town or city, you’ll know the feeling: everything seems to happen all at once. That’s what it is to be overloaded. But things used to be different. Think about just how much information is in one copy of the New York Times. If you lived in seventeenth-century England, it would take a whole lifetime to be exposed to the same amount of material.
Given all of that, it’s critical that you take the opportunity to turn off your brain for a little while every now and then and relax.
A great way to foster relaxation and happiness is to connect with nature. The author is a big fan of this himself.
Often, after a week packed full of giving talks, signing books and making television appearances, he’ll head out. A beautiful park or the woods are places conducive to letting the mind relax. The sound of the wind rustling through the trees is enough to bring him into a meditative state.
If you, too can enter into such a mind space, you’ll find that current priorities become clear. That sense of urgency associated with meaningless tasks will simply disappear.
There’s another great aspect to nature: it can really help to stimulate creativity. It’s surely no fluke that Isaac Newton discovered gravity while he was camped out under an apple tree.
It may seem like an effort to get close to nature. But you can make it easier by incorporating a little greenness into your daily commute, for example by walking through a park.
And while we’re on the topic of commuting, remember that it, too, can be used for success. The average commute is between 30 and 90 minutes long. That adds up to an awful lot of time each week.
Be sure, then, not to waste time gaping out of the train window or yelling at other cars. If you’ve got a radio or a smartphone, you can use that time to listen to educational audio-books or podcasts. And if you’re on public transport, you can do all kinds of constructive things, from meditation to reading.
If you use your commute for self-improvement, then you’ll soon begin to reap the benefits. There’s really no reason to spend those hours idling and daydreaming!
Rather than complaining, focus actively on what you can bring to the world.
We all love it when we can gripe about something, but sometimes it can go too far. You know the type of person – someone who is always sighing, complaining that he or she doesn’t have enough time to work out or learn a new language or skill.
But such complaining has little to do with the real world. It’s just the result of a negative mindset.
If that’s you, then you’ll be pleased to know that just by being a bit more proactive, you can get out of the rut. So if you feel you’re often short of an hour in your day, then just get up that much earlier in the morning.
The same principle applies if you feel that the economy’s against you or that the environment’s polluted.
Griping about pollution will get you nowhere, but proactive recycling and carbon footprint reduction will make some difference.
And if you feel that the economy’s stopping your career development in your company, then start polishing your CV or getting your portfolio ready to be sent out. If, say, you’re a designer, sit down and create a couple of new posters or object designs.
Those first steps are critical. Once you see that change is possible, you’ll realize that complaining is just wasted energy.
Another element to being successful is recognizing your own value to the world. So when you choose your vocation, think hard about what you can contribute to others’ lives.
Knowing your worth will push you to get the well-paid and gratifying job you deserve. After all, you’ll know your efforts will truly be adding something to the world. Surgeons are the classic example here. A surgeon isn’t intrinsically better or cleverer than any other professional.
But surgeons have spent countless hours working on highly specialized skills. Their expertise allows them to make contributions that are significant and life-altering. That explains why surgeons are seen as so valuable by society.
It’s never too late to begin. You, too, can work on acquiring rare skills that are needed in your community. Start reading, studying and preparing yourself to think originally.
Let’s return now to where this book summary began. Others are sure to cry when you die if you’ve lived your life as the best possible version of yourself. This version isn’t something abstract; it will emerge quite naturally if you treasure your time, focus on your life goals, remember to have fun and celebrate life as it happens.
The entire book is just about those small changes that we can apply to our lives to bring that happiness that we always longed to bring or see. Collection of these thoughts what makes this book as an unique and inspiring. You may wonder while reading this book, why didn’t I realized these trivial things all these days? Well, we are too much deep in our materialistic desires and never in any given day has given thoughts about these.
This book is just about realizing what makes us more happy and less resentful. Robin Sharma had explained in a simple but elegant manner. Author had covered every little details ranging from waking up early in the morning, to have a nice family outing, to have a collection of our favorite books, to see that one life changing movie or to have a gala time with our kids till some of the serious topics like why doing meditation is a good way of silencing our chattering minds, why having a “lone time” is important, why should we start living our day like its our last etc, etc…
We all knew that these things are more important in our life, but, we haven’t given a much thought about it. From this book, what you learn is an art of living and an art of dying as well. We are living our life trying to achieve something we don’t really like to show off to some people whom we really like. If those people like you really, they allow yourself to get something that makes you live as yourself. Though I don’t really say that, materialistic success is not required, I am only asking to not consider those as the real success. There is something beyond in everyone’s life that we are failing to appreciate. Well, this book just gives you an idea of finding those somethings and make your life more meaningful.
Robin Sharma regularly uses famous quotes in all his books. That adds more meaningful messages to what he says. Even in this book you find ample number of quotes that adds more color to the book. I really liked this particular quote:
“When you are born the World rejoice while you cry. Live a life in a such a way that when you DIE, the World should cry and you rejoice” – Sanskrit Saying
I recommend this book to be read by everyone. Though it may not bring overnight changes to your life, but, surely, it evokes some questions that every readers can questions themselves.
This book not only gives you a good reading experience, but
also starts having its influence in your life, changing your lifestyle. Another
important goodness of this book is at the end of the book, you will feel like time
is precious and we must make use of it.
Before reading this book, if you are
wasting time in unwanted things, it lets you focus on what you want, lets you
think about what actually desires you, makes you think about your purpose in
this life and at last it forces you to think about yourself and spend time for
yourself by focusing you on activities that actually fascinates you. And if you
think nothing actually fascinates you and all you have been doing all these
days simply sitting and chatting with your friends, this book narrows your
views and gets the best out of you.
It teaches you to play with whatever you
are doing, teach you the passion that you shall experience in your work, in
Sources : Book Who Will Cry When You Die -Robin Sharma
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